I know that dating has changed dramatically in the past few years, and for many women asking men out isn’t at all daring.

我知道最近几年，男女约会已经与以前大不样〕对许多女士而言，邀请男人出去根本算不上什么大胆的举动了。

Now, Aphrodite was a cry jealous goddess and she grew very angry about Psyche.

阿芙洛狄特是位嫉妒心很强的女人，她对波西卜大为恼怒于是阿芙洛狄特找来她的儿子，丘比特当这个故事发生时，丘比特已是一个十分英俊的小伙了，当然背上仍长着翅膀阿芙洛狄特要丘比特去惩罚波西卡于是丘比特牡到J‘人间，他发现波西卜正在房间里熟睡他从箭袋单抽出一只箭搭在玄，当他刚看她一眼，就不禁被她的美丽惊呆了。

Think, for a moment about wearing headgear like that into battle would mean the horns are just easy targets for your opponent to hit and knock off your helmet.

想想看，戴着那样的头饰去打仗，角只是敌人容易打击的目标，很容易打掉你的头盔。

Having stopped laughing.
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My life of 48 years on this planet has been like the making of a crazy quilt comprised of many different shapes, sizes, colors and hues of experiences.

在此之前，我48年的生活就像是编织一床奇特的棉被，棉被中不同的形状、尺码、颜色和花样代表着我丰富的人生经历可是没有发生任何事情，也没有遇到任何人能够修饰该棉被粗糙的边角，代之以华丽的绸缎边，但和马蒂的相遇则改变了一切。

United Kingdom, England, Great Britain? Are these three the same place? Are they different places? Do British people secretly laugh those who use the terms incorrectly? Who knows the answers to these questions? I do, and I’m gonna tell you right now.

“联合王国”，“英格兰”，“大不列颠”？这三个是同一个地方吗？还是它们是不同所在？英国人会偷偷嘲笑那些误用这些名词的人吗？谁知道这些问题的答案？我知道，现在我给您道来。

导语：有没有吸引力并不取决于你赚多少钱，也不取决于你的老爸是谁。而且，这完全不取决于你是否长得像汤姆·克鲁斯或者他的妻子凯蒂·赫尔姆斯。这仅仅取决于一些简单的细节，像汤姆·克鲁斯一样的人也不一定能办到。而来自任何种族，任何国家，任何背景的人，都能成为世界上最有吸引力的人 by susan brown

how to be the most attractive person in the world

如何成为最有魅力的人？

it’s not about how much money you make, and it’s not about who your daddy is. and no,

 it’s definitely not about whether you look like tom cruise or his wife katie holmes … what it is about is these simple things, things that maybe even a person like tom cruise does not have.

and note, we are not necessarily talking about sexual (male attract female) things here.

we’re talking about being attractive in general, whether it’s on a job interview or just gaining the respect of your colleagues . . .

ask lots of questions

in other words, be humble. if you come across as a know-it-all (even if you really do knowit all!), it really pushes people away. rather, asking lots and lots of questions (even dumb ones) makes people feel like you care, you can be trusted, and you are… humble.

great posture

have you ever seen a potentially very attractive person, but they have terrible posture? it’s all ruined, isn’t it? or perhaps you have seen someone who perhaps could be quite ugly but they have great posture and so suddenly they are really attractive? it’s true. your posture says a lot about you - it says whether you have confidence, or simply if you really care. talking physically, it is one of the most important physical characteristics you need!

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walk like you mean it

walk with an attitude. walk like you know where you’re going, and do so with good posture. walk like you’ll run over anyone who even attempts to hassle you. if you walk like this, you’ll be spotted from a mile away.

stay busy

do you really know the power of this? we’re told to stay busy to ward off depression and feelings of anxiety. but did you know you should also stay busy to be really attractive? it’s true. always have something to do. have you ever seen someone just sitting around, doing nothing? how unattractive. always be busy with something, even if for some reason you have to make something up.

show your pearly whites (or just smile)

smile more, no matter how ugly your teeth are. i’m not kidding about this one. it’s not all about the teeth. if you are smiling genuinely, you can draw everyone for 100 meters around to you.

keep your lips smooth

moisturize your lips. it’s hard to even look someone in the face if their lips are cracked and dry. and it’s hard to believe that they really care about anything. that’s just the way we humans think. so for cryin’ out loud carry around a tube of chap stick around with you … they’re only like a buck a pop, and they’ll last you a while even if you put it on as regularly as i am eluding to! and no, women, it’s not necessarily about the lipstick (although, yes, there is a time and place for it) … it’s more about the simple, natural beauty of supple lips. caution! don’t put so much on that it’s just scary, however. but i didn’t need to tell you that, right?

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wear what fits

wear clothing that fits you. too tight, people are distracted. too loose, you just look sloppy. for women, wearing tight pants or shirts is not attractive. if you’ve got it, don’t flaunt it - it ruins it for your man (there are a few things best left to the imagination, honey). loose, slightly clingy or drapey things are best, or else things that just fit you and your shape well but not tight. men, us women with taste and style really don’t know why some guys think their pants sagging down is somehow attractive. it’s not! and neither is huge, wide leg pants. both just tell us you don’t really care. you’re following the crowd. wear things that fit you nicely, please . . . and for goodness sake, both sexes, stay away from logos and printed shirts! most people you may ask do not find this attractive. stop being some company’s billboard, and show us you.

be interested in other man

be interested in the other person. again, ask them questions. don’t talk about yourself … remove attention from yourself. if you are genuinely interested in the person, it will come across. and if you want to talk about yourself, you’ll find that putting the other person first actually opens him up to return the favor and ask you questions. see how fun this is?

put away inhibitions

ok, there is a time and a place to play shy. but, for the most part, putting away inhibitions makes people feel comfortable around you. even if you go ahead and do something and totally mess it up, it really makes everyone comfortable around you and want to be around you. people are fragile, especially those who don’t put into practice what i’m saying in this article. and so that means they need someone like you to lean on.

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so, yes it is possible to be the most attractive person in the world. if you’ve noticed the ring throughout the article, it has a lot to do with just being confident in who you are. nobody needs to look like tom cruise or will smith or their wives, or anyone else for that matter. every person, of every race, of every nationality, of every background, can be the most attractive person in the world .

failure doesn’t mean you are a failure,失败并不代表你是个失败者

it does mean you haven’t succeeded yet.它只表明你尚未成功

failure doesn’t mean you have accomplished nothing, 失败并不代表你一无所获

it does mean you have learned something.它只表明你吸取了一次教训

failure doesn’t mean you have been a fool, 失败并不代表你很愚蠢

it does mean you had a lot of faith.它只表明你信心百倍

failure doesn’t mean you’ve been disgraced, 失败并不代表你无脸见人

it does mean you were willing to try.它只表明你百折不回

failure doesn’t mean you don’t have it, 失败并不代表白费功夫

it does mean you have to do something in a different way.它只表明你的方法仍待改进

failure doesn’t mean you are inferior, 失败并不代表你低人一等

it does mean you are not perfect.它只表明你也并非完人

failure doesn’t mean you’ve wasted your life, 失败并不代表你浪费了生命

it does mean you have a reason to start afresh.它只表明你有理由重新开始

failure doesn’t mean you should give up, 失败并不代表你应该放弃

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it does mean you must try harder.它只表明你要加倍努力

failure doesn’t mean you’ll never make it, 失败并不代表成功永远不属于你

it does mean it will take a little longer.它只表明你可能需要付出更多的时间

failure doesn’t mean god has abandoned you, 失败并不代表上帝已经将你抛弃

it does mean god has a better idea.它只表明上帝还有更好的主意 u

1. have a cause

i can’t think of a more powerful source of motivation than a cause you care about. such cause can inspire you to give your best even in the face of difficulties. it can make you do the seemingly impossible things.

while other causes could inspire you temporarily, a cause that matters to you can inspire you indefinitely. it’s a spring of motivation that will never dry. whenever you think that you run out of motivation,  you can always come to your cause to get a fresh dose of motivation.

1.找到一个理由

“在激励里，没什么比理由更有力了。这些理由能在困难当前时把你激发起来。它能让你去做一些看起来不可能的事。”

尽管也有其他一些动机理由能临时刺激你，与你休戚相关的那些目标能无限期地激发你。这是一口永不干涸的激励泉水。什么时候你觉得没动力了，就去找找自己的目标以获得动力的泉水。

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2. have a dream. a big dream.

only as high as i reach can i grow, only as far as i seek can i go, only as deep as i look can i see, only as much as i dream can i be.
karen ravn

your cause is a powerful source of motivation but it’s still abstract in nature. you need to make it concrete in the form of a dream. imagine how the world will be in the future. imagine how people will live and work.
having a dream is important because it’s difficult to be motivated if you don’t have anything to shoot for. just think about people who play basketball. will they be motivated to play if there is no basket to aim at? i don’t think so. they need a goal. you need a goal. that’s what your dream is for.
but just having a dream is insufficient. your dream must be big enough to inspire you. it must be realistic but challenging. it must stretch your ability beyond your comfort zone.

2.要有一个梦想。还要够大。

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“能摸多高我就长多高，能探多远我就走多远，能看多深我就看多深，能做多少梦我就做多少梦。”

你的目标动力对于激励来说是个挺有力的来源，但还是太抽象。你得把它具体化成一个梦想。想象一下未来的世界会怎样。想象一下人们怎么生活工作。如果你无的放矢，根本没法激励自己，所以做做白日梦还是挺重要的。想想打篮球的人。如果根本没有篮筐去投，谁还有动力啊？我看就没有了。他们需要目标。你也是。不然你白日梦拿来干嘛。
但光有白日梦还不够。这个梦得足够高远，那才能激励你。它得既现实主义又不是可以一蹴而就的。它还得能迫使你离开安逸的环境去大展身手。

3. be hungry

wanting something is not enough. you must hunger for it. your motivation must be absolutely compelling in order to overcome the obstacles that will invariably come your way.
les brown

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to be truly motivated, you need to have hunger and not just desire. having mere desire won’t take you through difficult times since you don’t want things badly enough. in many cases, hunger makes the difference between the best performers and the mediocre ones.
how can you have hunger? your cause and your dream play a big role here. if you have a cause you care about and a big dream related to it, you should have the hunger inside of you. if you think that you are losing hunger, all you need to do is to connect again to your cause and dream. let them inspire you and bring the hunger back.

3.要有饥渴感

“‘想要’什么那还不够。你一定要对它充满渴望。你的动力一定要足够霸道，那才能跨过总是出现在路上的那些障碍。”

要想真正得到激励，你得不仅仅是“想要”，还要是“渴望要”。仅仅是普通欲望没法帮你渡过困难，因为你又不是非要不可。很多时候，有没有饥渴感就是将军和士兵的差别。
怎样才能有饥渴感？这里就得看你的动机目标和梦想了。如果你又有关心的目标又有和之相关的白日梦，你就该有一种饥渴感才对。如果你认为自己正在丧失这种饥渴感，你所要做的就是再一次连结起目标和梦想。让它们继续激发你并给你带来饥渴。

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4. run your own race

i do not try to dance better than anyone else. i only try to dance better than myself.
mikhail baryshnikov

comparing yourself with others is an effective way to demotivate yourself. even if you start with enthusiasm, you will soon lose your energy when you compare yourself with others.
don’t let that happen to you. you have your own race so how other people perform is irrelevant. comparing yourself with others is like comparing the performance of a swimmer with a runner using the same time standard. they are different so how can you compare one with the other?
the only competitor you have is yourself. the only one you need to beat is you. have you become the best you can be?

4.别管别人

“我又不想比别人跳舞跳得好。我只想着跳得比自己好而已。”
要想灰心丧气，拿自己跟别人比可谓立竿见影。就算一开始你豪气冲天，一和别人比，你马上就缴械投降。
千万别这么做。你跑自己的，管别人呢。拿自己和别人比，就像让一个游泳的和一个跑步的用同一时间标准斗快。都不一样，天晓得你怎么比较出来？
自己才是自己的唯一敌人。这也是你唯一要战胜的对手。你做到最好了吗？

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5. take one more step

success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.
winston churchill

when you meet obstacles along the way, there could be the tendency to quit. you may think that it’s too difficult to move on. you may think that your dream is impossible to achieve. but this is where you can see the difference between winners and losers. though both of them face the same difficulties, there is one thing that makes the winners different: the courage to continue.
in difficult situations, just focus on taking one more step forward. don’t think about how to complete the race. don’t think about how many more obstacles are waiting for you. just focus on taking the next step.

5.走下去

“成功无止境，失败还有救；重要的是要有勇气玩下去。”

当你半路遇到困难，你可能想过要溜掉。你可能觉得难于上青天。你可能觉得自己白日梦做得太离谱。但就在这里，成功者和失败者的不同点就凸显出来了。尽管他们遇到同样的麻烦，有一点使成功者与众不同：玩下去的勇气。
困境里，你应该集中精神向前迈多一步。别想着怎样才能跑完。别想着前面还有多少障碍。只想着你的下一步。

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6. let go of the past

finish each day and be done with it. you have done what you could.
ralph waldo emerson

believe it or not, one of the best demotivators is your past. your past can drag you down before you realize it. your past can give you a heavy burden on your shoulders.
the good news is it’s a burden you don’t have to carry. take it off your shoulder and leave it. you might make mistakes in the past. you might disappoint others with what you did. but it’s over. it’s already in the past and there’s nothing you can do about it.
today is a new day and you have the chance to start again. no matter how bad your past might be, you still have a bright future ahead waiting for you. just don’t let the burden of the past stop you.

6.让往事如烟飘走

“搞定每一天，你就能做任何能做的事。”

随你相不相信，你的过去在扰乱军心上可谓极具杀伤力。你还不知道，就给它扯了后腿。它给你背上了太重的负担。不过，好消息是这些负担你根本用不着去背。拿下来扔掉吧。过去你可能犯了错，可能因为自己的所做所为让人大失所望。但都过去了，再怎么样你都没法弥补了。
今天就是一个新的一天，你又有机会重新来过了。不管过去你多么不走运，你仍然前程似锦。别让那些过去的负担束缚了你吖。

the significant inscription found on an old key—“if i rest, i rust”—would be an excellent motto for those who are afflicted with the slightest bit of idleness. even the most industrious person might adopt it with advantage to serve as a reminder that, if one allows his faculties to rest, like the iron in the unused key, they will soon show signs of rust and, ultimately, cannot do the work required of them.

    those who would attain the heights reached and kept by great men must keep their faculties polished by constant use, so that they may unlock the doors of knowledge, the gate that guard the entrances to the professions, to science, art, literature, agriculture—every department of human endeavor.

    industry keeps bright the key that opens the treasury of achievement. if hugh miller, after toiling all day in a quarry, had devoted his evenings to rest and recreation, he would never have become a famous geologist. the celebrated mathematician, edmund stone, would never have published a mathematical dictionary, never have found the key to science of mathematics, if he had given his spare moments to idleness, had the little scotch lad, ferguson, allowed the busy brain to go to sleep while he tended sheep on the hillside instead of calculating the position of the stars by a string of beads, he would never have become a famous astronomer.

labor vanquishes all—not inconstant, spasmodic, or ill-directed labor; but faithful, unremitting, daily effort toward a well-directed purpose. just as truly as eternal vigilance is the price of liberty, so is eternal industry the price of noble and enduring success.

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如果我休息，我就会生锈

在一把旧钥匙上发现了一则意义深远的铭文——如果我休息，我就会生锈。对于那些懒散而烦恼的人来说，这将是至理名言。甚至最为勤勉的人也以此作为警示：如果一个人有才能而不用，就像废弃钥匙上的铁一样，这些才能就会很快生锈，并最终无法完成安排给自己的工作。

有些人想取得伟人所获得并保持的成就，他们就必须不断运用自身才能，以便开启知识的大门，即那些通往人类努力探求的各个领域的大门，这些领域包括各种职业：科学，艺术，文学，农业等。

勤奋使开启成功宝库的钥匙保持光亮。如果休•米勒在采石场劳作一天后，晚上的时光用来休息消遣的话，他就不会成为名垂青史的地质学家。著名数学家爱德蒙• 斯通如果闲暇时无所事事，就不会出版数学词典，也不会发现开启数学之门的钥匙。如果苏格兰青年弗格森在山坡上放羊时，让他那思维活跃的大脑处于休息状态，而不是借助一串珠子计算星星的位置，他就不会成为著名的天文学家。

劳动征服一切。这里所指的劳动不是断断续续的，间歇性的或方向偏差的劳动，而是坚定的，不懈的，方向正确的每日劳动。正如要想拥有自由就要时刻保持警惕一样，要想取得伟大的，持久的成功，就必须坚持不懈地努力。